Impatience or Grace?
“Mom, will you play a game with me?”
I can’t believe that after hounding reminding this child several times this morning to finish his math and fighting “the writing wars” this afternoon, he now wanted to play a game. With me.
My insides were screaming, “NO, I really DON’T want to!”
But of course, I murmured a lack-luster “Sure.”
All I could think about was how early I had woken up to get organized for the day. How patient I had been when I felt like yelling. How messy the house was and how I still had no idea what I was making for dinner.
His perspective, of course, was entirely different.
And, sadly, it took me WAY too long to figure out his perspective.
It wasn’t a coincidence that this child wanted to play a game with me after a frustrating school day.
This child needed the assurance he was still loved.
Just like I do, regularly, from my Heavenly Father.
Even though he knew he had fooled around instead of getting his math done. Even though he had been playing in his room instead of doing his copy work.
He needed a hug and some focused attention, without the pressure of “school.”
He needed me to be “mom” for a while, instead of “teacher.”
As I looked into that unsure face, I finally got it. Hugging him close, I asked, “What would you like to play?”
“How about Monopoly?” he squealed.
“We can start it and play until time to fix dinner, but we will have to finish it later.”
“Mom, I am sorry I played today instead of working on school.”
Giving unexpected grace prompted a repentant heart.
Lord, please help me to be quicker to extend grace and less impatient with my children.
The light in his eyes and relieved smile on his face gave me a little spring in my step that evening.
Giving grace instead of the ‘expected’ reaction is an investment that will pay off great dividends.
And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up. Gal.6:9
How is your challenging learner doing this week?
How might extending him or her unexpected grace help?