Seven Ways to be a Rock Star Homeschool Mom

You’re chasing the toddler, trying not to slip in the puddle of milk on the floor. It’s 4:00 pm, your 5th grader is still staring into space instead of working on his math, your first and third graders are getting into it, and your phone’s ringing. And you’re kicking yourself for forgetting to get the meat out of the freezer for dinner. Again. You feel like you’re not doing a very good job of keeping your household running smoothly, let alone being a “rock star homeschool mom,” like you dreamed you would be.

If you are in over your head, and you CRAVE having a peaceful home, I’m going to share a secret with you.  There is a way to make it ALL work smoothly.  So this is what you do.

You eliminate the non-necessities and focus on priorities. 

It’s by focusing on the priorities that you can learn to become a rock star homeschool mom.

If you keep your priorities in mind, you can weather the storm. I’m not saying your house is going to stay clean or you won’t forget to get the meat out of the freezer.

But you’ll have a peaceful home because you are nowin charge. You’re managing your home and your homeschool, rather than just being in reactionary mode.

Keep reading to see the priorities. Follow these seven priorities and you’ll be a rock star homeschool mom.

 

1. Academics are important – but relationships are more important.

Always remember that the child is more important than the schoolwork.  I know you agree, in theory. But sometimes when one is correcting a wiggly, uncooperative kid – for the fourth time in an hour – it’s hard to remember.  Put away the math book.  Stop and talk with your child and determine what is going on in his head instead of just lowering the boom. Is he hungry? Is he still hurt from a harsh word from you this morning that you need to apologize for?

This is point #1 for a reason – to be a rock star homeschool mom you need to remember that relationships are more important than schoolwork — no matter what.

In the same vein, relationships with siblings are more important than schoolwork.  In our house, it’s not permissible for siblings to fight and tear each other down physically or verbally.  Stop and referee, require apologies and make things right before trying to get back to work.

Your goal is that your children will not just be siblings… they’ll be friends. Good friends. Maybe even the best of friends. 

One more relationship to talk about – the one between you and your husband.

Don’t put that on the back burner for 15 years while you teach school. Believe it or not, that time goes by pretty fast.

It is SO easy for us to put the kids before our marriage, and when we do so we are not doing ourselves or our children any favors.  

If you want them to have successful marriages, you have to show them what one looks like. 

Make your husband a priority. Spend some time ALONE with him, even if you have to trade babysitting with a friend to get out and get coffee or just take a walk.

 

 

2. Don’t stress over things you can’t control.

First, allow a little margin in your life.

I say this from experience!  I’m the Queen of Overcommitment. Or I used to be!

As soon as you squeeze too many responsibilities on your plate, the most inconsequential thing can put you into a tailspin – and your kids, your husband, your homeschool, and your home suffers.

I see you nodding your head. 

When you make the decision to homeschool your children, there are things to which you need to say “no.”  Lots of things.Beneficial things.  Fun things.

Learn to say no.

If you have trouble with this, learn not to commit without talking with your husband about it first. (Then you can blame it on him when you say no.)

Just kidding. (Not really, sometimes this is helpful, and he probably won’t mind a bit.)

The other stuff that we let get in the way of being a rock star homeschool mom.

Sometimes there are things we think we “need,” but we really don’t. We use them as excuses sometimes.

• You might not have a house with the dedicated homeschool room that you salivate over on Pinterest. You may not have the money for the latest-and-greatest homeschool curriculum your friend adores.
• Your husband may not be as involved in or supportive of you homeschooling as you wish he was.
• You don’t think you have a good enough education because you didn’t finish college, like all of your friends did.

There is no end to the comparison. Determine not to go there.  

Dedication, commitment, and gratefulness go a looong way to make up for perceived deficits.

• You might have to multi-purpose your kitchen as a schoolroom, but that means you and your kids have to clean up more after your schooling is done for the day.
• Your husband might not be as interested, involved, or supportive as you’d like. But you can’t control how he feels or acts.
• You don’t tink you have a good enough education, but you have the ability to learn along with your kids. After all, you don’t have to be more than a little ahead of them!

Sit down with your husband and plan what you want your homeschool to look like.  Get him on board, if you can. Then work your plan.

3.  Worry about the big things and let the little things take care of themselves.

I’m going to tell you right now:

You’re not going to teach your children everything they need to know and they’re certainly not going to remember everything you teach them.

The important things are:

• • Where are your children in terms of their spiritual life?  This is critical in our home. If it is in yours, too, is it reflected in your daily conversation and how you spend your time? You might even want to create a homeschooling plan that reflects this priority.

• • Teach your kids how to discipline their minds to listen, to learn, and to find information on their own.
  • Train them to own their own work, manage their own belongings (including school supplies), and take care of their own spaces.
  • Give your children opportunities to serve others and rub shoulders with people of all ages and backgrounds. Serving in soup kitchens are fantastic for this.
  • Teach your kids to communicate with all others politely, tactfully and kindly. We were all made in the image of God, y’ know.  Even if we don’t agree with everything someone believes or have problems with the way they live. Everyone deserves respect.

These are all life lessons that will take your kids far.  There is SO much more to home education than just finishing a math lesson!

Let me ask you — what do you remember about what you learned in school (the academic part, I mean)? 

If you are like most of us, you don’t remember much! But your kids will remember what you thought was most important.

As far as academics, what your kids will remember is what engaged their interest. The projects they worked on, the research they did, some of the papers they wrote. The books they loved. The time you spent together as a family learning, playing games, reading together, and having fun.

4.  Study your children; identify their passions and how they learn best.

What do they enjoy the most?

• Is there something, in particular, they run to do as soon as you let them loose for a break?
• What always grabs their attention?
• Do they talk about a certain topic?
• What do they like to read or learn about in their free time?
• What do they learn quickly and easily?
• Do they automatically grab a book or search the Internet to learn something?
• Are they listening to music most of their waking hours?
• Do they like to talk about what they are learning?
• Are they ALWAYS moving?
• Do they like drama?  Art?  Music?  Playing with Lego blocks?

Educate yourself about learning styles and try to identify yours and theirs. Give them a chance to use their areas of interest (art, music, cooking, organizing) in their assignments. It will help them engage in and enjoy school more.

5.  Cultivate a love for learning.

The best way to do this is to be an enthusiastic learner yourself.  Enthusiasm is contagious.

Generate some excitement about learning new things.

READ.

Let them see you read.  Provide lots of stimulating reading material – at or below your children’s reading level.

This is important: Let them choose whatever they want to read for daily fun-reading time outside of school.  

(Shh- this will also improve their reading comprehension and fluency, even if it’s beneath their reading level, but don’t tell them.)

This is not a homeschool thing, it is a fun thing. (It’s all in the marketing.)

Go to the library frequently.  Buy magazine subscriptions in the areas of your child’s interests for Christmas and birthdays.

Talk about what you are learning.  Regularly go around the table at dinner telling each other about the most interesting or surprising thing you learned that day.

6.  You’re the teacher. Take the time to be prepared.

You don’t always have to be perfectly organized and prepared to homeschool.  BUT, it makes school much easier if you make an effort to be ready.  If you are prepared, you are more confident.

And If you have confidence in yourself, your children will have more confidence in you as their teacher.

This is especially important if you have recently taken your child out of public or private school.  Strategies that help:

• Put your things away and teach your kids to do the same. (See #3)
• Avoid clutter like the plague. If this is hard, just START. You’ll get better with practice.
• Take time to prepare lessons in advance.  Ask yourself — do I understand this?  Do I need to look anything up first?  Do I have the supplies I need?  Have I allowed enough time for this lesson? (If you need help with this, take a look at our Daily Lesson Plans – daily plans in history, science, language arts, and fine arts. With weekly supply lists and more.)
• Think ahead: What are the younger ones going to do while I teach this?
• Take an occasional “teacher workday” and spend some concentrated time during holiday/summer breaks to get ready for homeschooling
• Ask your husband or a friend to take the kids for a few hours a week so you can plan and prepare for the next week.

7.  A rock star homeschool mom doesn’t try to be a friend to her kids.  They need you to be a parent first.

I can’t stress this enough. Your kids need the security in knowing that you are in charge of their homeschooling.

You’re the teacher.

I’m not suggesting that you be an authoritarian or dictator, or that you shouldn’t try to get along with your children.

I’m just recommending that you be a parent first – set clear expectations of what is acceptable behavior in your home and how children are going to behave when school is in session (and out of session).

When you assign school work, make sure your children understand exactly what you expect. Train your kids to have good habits. And as they get older.

And be consistent with your discipline. 

I know you’re tired, and you don’t want to deal with one.more.thing. But you are investing in their futures. They need this from you.

If you’re a rock star homeschool mom, you are helping lay a foundation for your kids to be secure, confident, and self-motivated. And not only that, for them to be successful in college, be able to hold down a job, or work for themselves. Not to mention being good parents themselves someday.

 

Happy homeschooling,

 

P.S. If this seems like too much of a stretch for you, download my 25 Terrific Tips to Transform Your Christian Homeschool!