5 Simple Ways to Say Happy Valentine’s Day

5 Simple Ways to Say Happy Valentine’s Day to your spouse.

Normally I post homeschool learning and ministry ideas for families before Valentine’s Day, but this year my Valentine’s post is not going to be about homeschooling at all. In fact, this one is aimed at our spouses, who sometimes get lost in the day-to-day craziness. This year, choose one or more of my 5 simple ways to say Happy Valentine’s Day to your hubby!

If you’re like most of us, sometimes that relationship ends up on the back burner. While you are juggling a baby, chasing a toddler, grading an essay, and answering an algebra problem, your husband is not exactly on the forefront of your mind.  But this year, you can bless your husband by trying one or more of these ideas.

These are so simple even a tired momma can do most of these!

1. Spend intentional, stop-everything-else-and-look-at-him-while-he-is-talking-time every day.

We are exceptional at kissing ouchies, listening to stumbling new readers and chattering toddlers. We sometimes even do an admirable job of keeping the house relatively germ-free, pulling off regular meals and keeping the clothes clean. But we are so busy that we seldom just stop. listen. and look, giving our husbands our undivided attention.

2. You’ve read a thousand times about how important it is to have a regular “date night.”

You may not be able to pull this off weekly, but why not find another couple with small kids and trade babysitting every other week? Your kids will have big fun and you will get some much needed, regular time alone with your spouse. (And  please work at talking about something else other than the kids!)

3. Study your husband like you do your kids.

After teaching your kids all day, you know how they like to learn, what they get excited about, and how to bless them.  Be intentional about studying your husband as well.

husband and wife hands saying Happy Valentines'

Think back to your dating days and remember what has been lost in light of the dirty diapers, messy kitchens and the myriad number of homeschool projects. Seek ways to bless your husband, even if it is just an unexpected back rub at the end of a long day.


4. Use your talent or hobby to bless your husband on Valentine’s Day.

Crafty? Make him a card or put together a basket of special food or hobby treats.  Musical? Write him a song or cover another song and make him a recording. Or make a playlist of “your” music.  Artistic? Paint him a picture. Writer? Write him a poem or love note.

5. Bite the bullet: plan and do something HE likes to do.

You get extra points for this if he knows it is not your favorite activity. Watch the game, go on a hike, play golf, go fishing, play paintball, help him do yard work, or share in a needed home repair.

Believe me when I say that your family will all benefit by you mindfully honoring your husband by conserving time and attention for him.

Now tell me, does this strike a chord with you? Could you do better at investing in your relationship with your husband, or is that just me?  Are you going to do anything special for him on Valentine’s Day?

Which of these 5 simple ways to say Valentine’s Day are you going to do for your husband this year?



    1. Beth, I know, right? It seems that relationship in particular can get lost during the homeschooling years without some intentional attention. Thanks for stopping by!

  1. This was a very timely post! Number one especially hit home. How hard “full attention” is when you always feel hurried and are the queen of multi-tasking 🙂 Thank you!

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